Like it or not, it’s a fact that the people around you shape you into who you are and will become. After running my Happiness Project course for a few months now, I have
seen the very real affect that positivity can have on a person’s life.
Surrounding yourself with positive people, will not only make you think more
positively but it also gives you room to dream, to grow and to take leaps
forward in your life.
I wrote a post a few months back about who you include in your inner
circle {read the post here}, and while your inner circle is vital to your
personal success…your outer circle may also be having a bigger affect on your
daily life than you currently realize.
In a world where job satisfaction, or lack thereof, is the biggest current
motivator for people leaving their jobs, it is fair to say that people are more
in touch and expressive of their feelings regarding work, than ever before. And
with the help of social media, you don’t even need to be in the same office as
someone anymore, to know how devastating their day was, or job is, or life will
be if…
And so along these lines, I want to challenge you to be aware of the
people you've allowed to form your outer circle, as these people may be influencing your mood, attitude, productivity and general
levels of positivity; even if it's merely over Facebook.
A few simple tips:
1. Have a friend on Facebook whose statues are always negative? Why not hide
their statuses from your news feed. That way you won’t be ruining the friendship
but you’ll be protecting yourself from the effects this person has on you.
2. Surrounded by negative co-workers? This is a tough one but there’s always
a way out. You could leave a conversation when you hear it’s turning sour, you
could change the subject by adding in something positive about your lives or
even jobs, or could even go as far as suggesting an office project, where
everyone has to pay R10/ $1 each time they are caught speaking negatively
in the office. This money could be pooled and used for something fun to build
team morale.
3. Have a friend that is a pro at making your dreams seem unrealistic and unimportant?
As much as friendships are essential to our well-being, we also need to listen
to the voice within. Depending on how close you are to this person you could do
one of two things: Either address it with him/her in a safe, non-judgmental
way, or you could make a concerted effort to spend less time in this person’s presence.
{Sound extreme? I guess in a way it is, but no one else is going to take
control of your life, so either you live with the effects of listening to someone trample on your dreams or you take
control of the situation}
“Don’t let someone who gave up
on their dreams, talk you out of yours!”
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